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  Know what's causing the shyness
  What are the situations that trigger your shyness? Despite what you may think, you're not shy all the time. For example, when you're with your best friend, you're probably very open and comfortable being yourself. Realize that shyness is the effect of feeling insecure. If you can identify what you're feeling insecure about, you can then take action on it。



  Improve on your areas of insecurity

  After identifying your areas of insecurity, the next step is to take action on them. For example, perhaps you are shy when it comes to presentations at work. If that's the case, then work on improving your presentation skills! Invest your 10,000 hours of hard work - it's been said that 10,000 hours is the average time experts spend to be the best at their skills。



  Identify your strengths

  Many of us tend to focus on what we're not good at, rather than recognize what we are good at. As a result, we feel awkward around others, because we feel there's nothing to impressive about ourselves. It's time to stop selling yourself short and start focusing on your strengths. What are you good at? What are your past achievements? What are things you've done that you are really proud of? Spend some time to recognize them。



  Objectify the situatio

  Many people worry too much about what others think about them. But the funny thing is, it's just in your mind. Most people are actually too busy thinking about themselves to pay attention to what you're doing or not doing。



  Have a role model

  Can you think of someone (whether a friend or a famous person) you know who is very confident, assured and outgoing? Use the person as your role model. Whenever you feel shy, ask yourself what that person will do/say in this situation. Then, do that. Soon, it becomes second nature to you to behave in that manner。



  Observe how others interact

  A great way to overcome shyness is to observe how others around you act. Reduce the time you spend worrying about how others perceive you and look outward at how others conduct themselves socially. What do they say? How do they act? What can you learn from them?